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Oh I loved this post! I had this one woman who was an utter b*** to me online for the longest time in fandom related crap. When I got my first short published I got an e-mail from her congratulating me and wishing me future success.
It took me aback and I wanted to be an utter b*** to her and not respond and ignore her but I thought, no, she did something nice. Regardless of our past crap, in that one moment, she did something nice so I should acknowledge that. So I replied and said thank you and it felt like I did the right thing and I felt better about myself than if I had resorted back to the past drama. It would have made ME look like the bad one.
I would never ‘blame’ an author for writing a genre I’m not into. I mean, if I don’t like a genre, I’m not gonna say I don’t like the author personally. We have to keep it to the work and be respectful about our own preferences.
About the condoms, I had this decision to make with the latest short I submitted whether I was gonna mention condoms or not. Because it was a contemporary and these two characters were just getting into a relationship they had been wary getting into before so I felt it would be important to show that careful-ness extended to the condom use. Thankfully, I felt it fit with the tone of the story and didn’t jar as it can sometimes.
by Nancy June 6th, 2009 at 2:38 pmlol I’ve dragged you (Lauren) into a book discussion before :X and thank you for answering!
And yes! I’ve been having the “authors are public figures” discussions with a few people – and yes, in context to reviews.
I also think a lot of people forget the online filter. I find myself deleting a lot/most of comments I leave.. and I’m sure there are still things I’d like to take back or out.
And Lord. I’ve recently commented on another blog post. Yes, things on the internet will haunt you. FOREVER. It’s why I have a love/hate relationship with it. I think there’s a great community for romance readers and writers. But yes. The bad outlasts the good. I once made the throwaway comment that I preferred print books to ebooks. It’s how I felt at the time, and I had also recently been in a car accident, so reading off my laptop (no e-reader available) was just not ideal. It was nearly a year ago, and anyway, some people blew up at me, and still give me shit over it. I regret ever making that statement.
by limecello June 8th, 2009 at 1:26 am@Nancy: Good for you, for being the “better” person. Sometimes it’s hard, but you know it’s always better in the long run. On the other hand…sometimes people who behave like twats should be told they are…
@limecello: Wow. Well, I prefer reading print to reading on my computer, it doesn’t mean I think ebooks are bad, it’s just my preferred method of “ingesting” them…! Sheesh.
by Megan June 8th, 2009 at 11:02 amMegan, yeah, I wish I would’ve said “I don’t like reading off my computer and cannot afford an ereader which is why I prefer print books to ebooks at this time because of back pain and the fact that reading off the backlit screen causes the capillaries in my eyes to burst.” But, no, I in my naivete merely said “I prefer print books to e.” And holy did they jump down my throat and still do.
So yes. I love the internet, and I hateSs it too.
by limecello June 8th, 2009 at 1:20 pm@limecello I find that sad that you have to explain or justify why you prefered one over the other at the time.
You should have been able to say ‘I like print books better’ and it’s no one’s business what your reasoning behind it is. You should have that right without people jumping down on you.
As an ebook author, I don’t get offended if someone says they like print books better, that’s just their preference. It doesn’t make them evil and it’s not my job to change their mind.
But I’m of the opinion that people like to be offended and I’ve learned to try my best to ignore them.
by Nancy June 8th, 2009 at 1:35 pmNancy – yes, there are people in the world who want to be aggrieved. They derive great pleasure from being upset at something or someone. I’d imagine it’s an empty place to be.
Limecello – I’m always happy to be invited to comment, I love to talk about books so I was happy to do it. But when authors do it too much I think it has an overall effect on that blog or loop because readers may feel less freedom to comment honestly.
As far as preferences – well you’re damned either way. Which is why I just try to take it all with a grain. Not everyone is going to like the things I like. Not everyone is going to like my books, which is more personal, but still, that’s life.
There will always be people who want to read into a throwaway comment and be offended. There are people who feed off the drama to make their own blog hits higher. The longer I do this, the less I participate outside a few places. I don’t have the time I did before and there’s just a level of scrutiny I don’t have the time or patience for so I remain quiet unless and until it’s something really important to me.
by Lauren June 8th, 2009 at 7:22 pmI’ve actually done something of the same; I used to visit 100+ blogs daily, and yes, comment on almost every one. Now, I visit maybe ~20 daily, and try to comment, but I’m not as on it.
I’ve been thinking a lot about personal interaction/”mob mentality.” And definitely the “nice/mean” factor. People are nice, until you disagree with them, or they disagree with you. Then it’s not a simple difference of opinion, it’s personal attacks all around. Very curious, although the internet makes it easy to do that.
by limecello June 9th, 2009 at 1:08 amI always wonder if people would act the same in real life. (And often I’d prefer not knowing.)